The Christian Marriage 1: Finding And Getting Married To Your Best Match

 

Are you in a position where you are wondering how to discover the right spouse for you? You'll find this helpful.

Marriage is God's idea. He instituted it. So your desire to find the perfect man or woman for you is absolutely in order.

"And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof;

And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man." Gen 2:21-22 KJV

If there's one thing God is interested in you having, it is a healthy marriage relationship. That's because one thing is to have a spouse, the other is to have a healthy marriage. A union where you can have your peace of mind, fulfill your individual and collective purpose and leave the world a better place.

As a result of this, God would use everything at His disposal to give you your dream spouse. The question is, are you ready to walk with God and find him or her?

How To Know Your God Given Partner

As you grow to maturity and go about your daily life, you will certainly meet lots of beautiful and nice people whom you may end up liking or loving. How do you know which of them is meant to go the marriage journey with you?

1. Compatibility (Physical Proofs)

In Amos 3:3, the Bible asked a very powerful question...

"Can two walk together, except they be agreed?"

I like how The Message Bible version puts it. It says, "Do two people walk hand in hand if they aren't going to the same place?"

In marriage, the "agreement" or "going the same place" the Bible talked about where we just read is simply compatibility.

God is a Master planner. In his design of individuals, he made it in such a way that couples will naturally "fit" into each other.

The first proof that this person is the right one meant for you is that you're both compatible. By being compatible here, I mean you should have the same or closely related dreams, goals, ambitions and pursuits.

While you may still differ in certain areas, these areas shouldn't be so much that they "continuously" cause needless friction or problems in marriage.

2. A Stronger And Godly Sense Of Attraction, Love & Desire (Emotional Proofs)

There's this strong sense of attraction you experience when you meet him or her. It's unexplainable. You just have this godly, holy desire for them. I'm talking about God's kind of love and desire here, not just lust.

You just find yourself enjoying doing things with them and being around them always. Though this desire if not carefully controlled can be very physical, it can still abide and grow with or without anything physical happening between the both of you.

You earnestly desire that fellow until no one else matters to you like they do.

3.  Supernatural Evidences (Spiritual Proofs)

This is usually the part most people overlook when choosing a partner and then end up paying heavily for it.

While compatibility applies mainly to physical proofs, love and desire applies to the soul. Supernatural evidences on the other hand has to do with the spiritual aspect.

When you meet the person God has truly ordained for you, there are bound to be spiritual proofs that this person is meant for you.

Sometimes the evidences can come in such simple patterns that we end up ignoring and dismissing them.

For instance, they can come in the form of dreams and visions, supernatural impressions in your heart, counsel and confirmation from your spiritual leaders, peace or uneasiness in your heart etc.

Do not ignore them. Even if you don't understand them. All you need to do is ask for help if you are confused over any sign, but don't dismiss them altogether.

In Conclusion

Marriage is God's idea. He orchestrated it, long before the world began. And he made it in such a way that everyone of us regardless of how we are and where we are, would be able to find their perfect match.

Knowing this, we can be able to look up and ask Him for help in finding that right person we're meant to spend our lives with.

I hope this helps.